Separating Fact from Fiction: 6 Common Misconceptions About Divorce

It seems that most people always have advice for others regarding situations they’ve never been in themselves, and divorce is no exception. If you’re thinking about divorce or are already in the middle of one, you probably read and heard things that make you worry. What many fail to realize is that a lot of the advice out there is really just full of fallacies—here are six of the most common misconceptions about divorce:

 

  • You should have fought for your marriage harder – People on the outside can always say that your problems were fixable or that you didn’t try hard enough to save your relationship. Only you can judge whether you tried as hard as you could, or even wanted to make the decision to try at all. No one else except you and your ex knows the intimate details of why your marriage didn’t work out.
  • It’s too hard to start over – For stay-at-home parents, the word divorce can create a lot of fear. Going from one set of responsibilities to another can be daunting, especially if you now have to do everything alone. Rather than letting this be a reason to stay together, take some time to assess your relationship and think about how a divorce could benefit you in the long run. Being afraid of the future is no reason to stay in a bad relationship.
  • Divorce is just like breaking up with someone – This misconception couldn’t be further from the truth. Even in marriages where there are no children and all bank accounts are separate, there’s still an emotional and mental separation that accompanies the physical one. Marriage is a huge commitment and deciding to end it isn’t something trivial.
  • Getting divorced is quick and easy – In a perfect world, getting divorced would be a cake walk. Yet with each person’s requests for property, child custody schedules, and assets to divide, the process can take a long time. Remember that the more complex a divorce is, the more expensive it will also ultimately be.
  • After a divorce you’re ready to date again – It takes time after a divorce to gain stability in your life and figure out how you feel about relationships. Particularly for stay-at-home parents, the idea of introducing your children to a new partner might seem inappropriate for a while, or you might just be more focused on raising your children than your own dating life.
  • You should be pitied for getting divorced – While it’s true that some people do not want to get divorced and their partner insists upon it, many times getting a divorce can be a blessing. Instead of feeling bad for someone after their split, it might benefit you to ask how they are doing instead of offering your condolences. They might end up being happier than you’d think.

 

Thinking about divorce and not sure where to start? Alexandra Geczi Family Law can help answer your questions and walk you through the divorce process so you can make an educated decision. Call (214) 269-4256 today!

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Written by Alexandra Geczi

Alexandra Geczi

Alexandra Geczi is an attorney, mediator, and founding member of the firm, Alexandra Geczi PLLC | Family Law. Alexandra is also Owner/CEO of Chief Domestic Officer Solutions, an entity dedicated to enhancing the busy lives of stay at home spouses.